INTERFERANCE OF NDC YOUTH GROUP IN THE SELECTION OF MCE FOR EVALUA AJOMORO GWIRA
It has come to our notice that Axim Youth Alliance (AYA) leadership which is made up of NDC party activists, are moving from one local Fm to another fronting for the MCE position for one Dorcas Amoah in Axim.
We wish to school the so called leadership of the Youth Group that the NPP Party believes in the structures of the Party which I will like to quickly ran you through:
1. The Party invited interested parties who are card bearing and dues paying members to apply through the constituency as has always been the case regarding processes relating to the application for the office of the MCE.
2. All applicants were interviewed at the regional level as part of the processes.
3. The national level is preparing to further evaluate the Applicants after which a Short list will be sent to the president to select in consultation with the council of state an MCE for the Nzema East Municipal Assembly(NEMA).
The question is: how come the leadership AYA who are known NDC activists jumping the gun by openly attacking one of the applicants and actually threatening mayhem if that applicant is chosen?
The constituency is fully aware of their diabolic attempts and therefore wish to use this medium to send a warning to them, that they have no locus whatsoever in the selection of MCE, and that if they continue to denigrate any of our applicants, the party will take them on to let them know that, the winning team in Evalua Ajomoro Gwira will not allow misguided young men to destabilize the peace and joy in our constituency.
We want the so called executive of AYA to know that MCE’s are not selected on Whatsapp platforms but through Party structures and also to call on those applicants who know they will not be selected, to desist from using fame hungry youths to do their fruitless bid.
AYA as Non Political as they claim made it obvious to us during the regional vetting of the applicants for the office of the MCE, their political ambitions by Siding with one of the applicants and went to the extent of massing up on the said date in their numbers to support Madam Dorcas Amoah, one of the applicant in the contest.
We also want AYA to know that they are not the mouthpiece of the people of NEMA and therefore do not speakand fight for us but rather speaks and fight for Madam Dorcas Amoah and their own selfish interest.
We therefore caution AYA executives especially the president and the vice not to meddle in our party affairs butrather focus on how to be accountable in their so called AYA activities, since that has been the reason why 2/3rds of the members have deserted them. We also want to state that AYA cannot impose on us an MCE for NEMA.
We want to ask the AYA executives the criteria they used in defining the former MCE, James Kakra Baidoo as a failure, is it because they were not giving money to chop and resisted them from manipulating him?
We stand for the true youth group that respect the elderly, traditional leaders and peers. We finally indulge AYA to stay away from NPP business.
Long live NPP
Long live TFC
Long live EAG
Theophilus Musa ------------- President of train for change (0242081716)
Obed Carl Brew --------------- Vice president of train for change (0541421291)
Aaron Angati ------- acting secretary of train for change (0545573808)
Monday, 20 February 2017
PRESS RELEASE BY TRAIN FOR CHANGE(NPP YOUTH) EVALUA AJOMORO GWIRA CONSTITUENCY.
NZEMA NPP YOUTH CONDENM TRIBAL STATEMENTS BY THREE CHIEFS
We the good people of the three Nzema constituency condemn in the strongest terms the unfortunate tribal statements made by the three chiefs of Nzema.
We wish to put on record for the entire nation to note that the views expressed by the three (3) chiefs do not reflect the views and visions of the peace loving people of Nzema.
There are seven (7) paramount chiefs in the Nzema enclave and our checks have confirmed that the other four who were not part of the so called press conference are in total disagreement with the unilateral decision by the three chiefs.
We wish to state emphatically that, we dissociate ourselves from this unfortunate tribal and ethnocentric statements by the three chiefs. We are all Ghanaians and the constitution is very clear on equal job opportunities irrespective of one’s tribe, religion and sex.
If the Ashanti kingdom were also to decide that all jobs in the Ashanti region should be offered to only Ashantis or the Greater Accra chiefs also were to rise and make statements that jobs on their land should go to onlyIndegenes, will Ghana be united?. Jobs should be applied for based on merit, competence in the field of endeavor and loyalty to Ghana, not tribe. If the chiefs in the Northern Region have staged a press conference, rejecting the retired professor. Would he have become the acting vice chancellor of the UDS, He should give us a break.
Ghana Gas is not reserved for only Nzema people, it’s for Ghanaians and the unfortunate ploy by a few individuals to scuttle the success of the NPP in Nzema will fail.
We the NPP youth, the entire people of Nzema fully support the appointment of Dr Ben Asante because he is qualified, experience and better suited for the job. He is a Ghanaian and not a Mongolian for God sake.
It is within the perview of Awulaemo to lobby for jobs for Nzemas, but it should not be limited to only jobs in theNzemaland. Awulaemo should lobby the president to giveus jobs in Tamale, Ho, Tema etc but not tie the hands of the president to specific jobs in Nzema for Nzema people.
The path taken by the three (3) chiefs is dangerous for the unity of this nation, and we call on Well Meaning Ghanaians, the media, civil societies, and our development partners to join us in condemning this tribal and ethnocentric practice.
We do not wish to denigrate the retired professor who is using the three chiefs to coerce the president to give him a job. Since he has brought on himself, we will set the record straight.
Where was the retired professor when we were campaigning? Does he still stands by his mathematical analysis that Nana Akufo Addo will not win the 2016 elections? Is he still teaching in Kenya as a professor since he was convinced NPP will not Win, Did he openly campaign for the NDC and got an award for his so called efforts?
It is embarrassing and a cheap ploy for him to hide behind three induced chiefs to look for a retirement job, after he and his team openly campaigned against his Excellency Nana Akufo Addo and the NPP parliamentary candidate. Jobs should be applied for based on merit, competence in the field of endeavor and loyalty to Ghana not tribe.
In this day and age of globalization of globalization our three chiefs have made us a laughing stock of the nation by sending a wrong signal out there that we are inward looking. Such ethnocentric and xenophobic statements will not be tolerated by us the progressive youth of Nzema.
We are aware that the very chiefs who addressed the press have sent their children to Dr Ben Asante to hire them to work at Ghana Gas. The question is did they realize he wasn’t an Nzema? Such hypocrisy is wrong and must be discouraged by all peace loving citizens of Ghana.
The constitution is very clear in article 78, the president has the sole Prerogative to appoint, not chiefs. We want to use this chance to tell the president that overwhelming majority including the other chiefs and Queen Mothers of the good people of Nzema are grateful for his wisdom in appointing Dr Ben Asante.
The young engineer is perfect for the job and so far has proven himself to all and sundry that the president made the right decision. Why did the three chiefs not reject the Chinese who built the plant designed by Dr Ben Asante? Such unfortunate statement from the three chiefs should be treated with the contempt it deserves and must be ignored.
We further state that, Awulae Amihere Kpanynli, paramount chief of Atuabo traditional area, the chief on whose land the Gas plant is situated sent us a message that he support the appointment of Dr Ben Asante and that he believes Dr is the right person for the job.
“ I believe Ghana gas at Atuabo as the first Ghanaian gas endeavor command a strong potential for expansion. This means employment for all Ghanaians, we look forward for this growth and economic development. First of all we here in Nzema are grateful for the leadership role of the president, Nana Akufo Addo and will continue to support his administration and leadership. We want the nation and its inhabitants to know we are host to the first gas plant and wish for their support for a continuous growth and stability. The truth is we need the Nation’s best men and women to achieve growth in the world market. We are thankful again to his excellency for your directions”
We the youth are also using this medium to tell the president and the energy minister that we will resist any attempt by the three chiefs to foster the retired professor on us simply because of tribe. Our futures will be bleak and we will be confined to only looking for jobs in Nzemaland based on logic.
That is not the Ghana we hope for, we hope for a Ghana where all tribes live in harmony, peace and free to work anywhere one chooses to.
Long live npp
Long live tfc
Long live Ghana.
Theophilus Musa--------------president of train for change (0242-081716)
Carl Obed Brew---------------vice president of train for change (0541421291)
Aaron Angati-----------acting secretary of train for change (0545573808)
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WHO QUALIFIES FOR GHANA GAS CEO
WHO QUALIFIES FOR THE POSITION
Dr Ben K. D Asante.
Dr. Ben Asante has over 25 years of experience in the oil and gas industry. He was the technical Director of Ghana’s first Gas Infrastructure project and also developed the gas infrastructure master plan for Ghana in 2008. He has also served as a consultant to the Ghana National Petroleum Corporation (GNPC) and provided engineering services, project management and technical support for various projects across the world including UAE, Argentina, Brazil, Canada, China, Mexico, Russia, Thailand and USA. He has worked for major companies including Nova/TransCanada and Enron and Jacobs Engineering. Dr. Ben Asante is a product of Mfantsipim school and holds a BSc in Chemical Engineering (KNUST, Ghana), and an MSc in Chemical Engineering from the University of Calgary, Canada. He also has a PhD in Chemical Engineering from Imperial College, London /University of Calgary and has taught gas processing and pipeline engineering at Imperial College, UK and KNUST, Ghana. – By: Obrempong Yaw Ampofo/ the man deserves it, let's put tribal cards aside.
Prof. Kaku Sagary Nokoe
Position: Professor , Acting Dean, School of Graduate Studies and Acting Head, Dept. of Mathematics and Statistics
Department: Mathematics and Statistics
Email: kaku.nokoe@uenr.edu.gh
Qualifications: PhD Biometrics, M. F. Biometrics/Mensuration, B.Sc. Forestry, Cert Higher Education Management
Professor Kaku Sagary Nokoe (alias Paa Kaku Mefful) hails from Nsein and Axim in the Evalue-Ajomoro-Gwira constituency of Western Ghana, and is married with children. He had his basic secondary education in Ghana – at Axim/Apam Secondary and Nkwatia-Kwahu St Peter’s Secondary (Sixth Form) Schools.
Professor Nokoe is a Fellow of the Ghana Academy of Arts and Sciences (GAAS). He obtained his PhD from the University of British Columbia at age 27, having completed his Masters and Doctoral degrees in 3 years. He has over 35 years of post-doctoral teaching and research experience in biomathematics and academic administration/management. He won several academic awards and scholarships at the University including
INTERAF/AAU Scholar (University of Ibadan), l969-l972; Commonwealth Prize for Best Graduating Student , University of Ibadan, l972; Macmillan-Bloedel Fellow in Mensuration , 1973 and as University of British Columbia Scholar (1974-76).
He has lectured and served as external examiner in several universities in Africa and Belgium. He was Head of Department of Mathematical Sciences at the University of Agriculture in Nigeria (2002-2004), and the acting Vice-Chancellor of the University for Development Studies in Ghana (April 2007 to May 2010). He was also Vice-Chancellor of a private University (Wisconsin International University College) from 2010-2013. Retired, but not tired, he currently works (since June 2013) with the University of Energy and Natural Resources (UENR, Sunyani) as Professor of Mathematics and Dean of the School of Graduate Studies.
He served as biometrician in national and international research centres, published extensively in several peer-reviewed journals and has contributions in Wiley’s
Encyclopedia of Environmetrics and Springer’s International Encyclopedia of Statistical Science . He has supervised several graduate students in Statistics, Statistical Ecology and Surveys, Quantitative Entomology, Mensuration, Biometrics and Statistical Computing among others. Professor Nokoe was involved in the design, implementation and analysis of large scale surveys and multi-location trials in Africa. He was leader of the Cross Research Support Team of econometricians, M&E specialists and statisticians of the FARA-SSA Challenge Program engaged in high level econometric and impact analyses of the IAR4D (integrated agriculture research for development) and proof of the Agricultural Innovation Platform concept.
He is an Elected Member of the International Statistical Institute, Member of the International Association of Statistical Computing, Member of the International Biometric Society (IBS) and Founder of Sub-Saharan Africa Network (SUSAN) of IBS. He is the first recipient of the Rob Kempton Award of the International Biometric Society for “outstanding contribution to the development of biometry in developing countries” on 22nd July 2006 in Canada. Late in November 2006, he was again honoured with the Distinguished Foresters Award of the Professional Forestry Association of Nigeria for “effective application of mathematics in forestry and for uplifting the image of the profession through his research activities”. Professor’s inaugural lecture (GAAS) was on the “Marriage of Biology and Mathematics”.
Prof Nokoe consults regularly for International, regional and national organisations on Scientific Data Management and has offered courses in African-Caribbean-Pacific countries, during which period and activities had the opportunity of visiting several countries in the ACP regions and all continents.
Professor Nokoe has a strong interest in education at all levels. He used personal funds to establish Manye Academy in 2006, an institution with the SHS section now absorbed by the Ghana Government, and has assisted several with scholarships and admission to various tertiary institutions. As principal officer of the University for Development Studies and senior Member of the University of Energy and Natural Resources, Professor Nokoe facilitated the admission of over 400 from Nzema Maanle and continues to assist till date. His desire is to see educated westerners compete for various job positions in the emerging oil industries and also earn living for themselves. These educational efforts led the Nzema Maanle Council to honour with the Grand Order of Ankobra , and remains the only recipient to date with this highest award of Nzema Maanle.
On 21 December 2014, DEQ Change Foundation honoured him with the Nzema Personality of the Year 2012/2013 award at a high profile ceremony at the Essiama Senior Technical School in the Ellembele district. The citation read in part “for your quest for the progress of Nzema education and the general well-being of the people has been a hallmark. The Nzema Youth find a repository of inspiration from your personal excellence and prominence —- we will never get your kind!”
Professor Nokoe has assisted women organisations in the Ellembele district, in Ewoku and Kegyina in the Nzema East Municipality and built a six-unit-teachers quarters to reduce absenteeism and eliminate lateness for the community in Agona near Eguafo in Nzema East. One of the facilities put up by the Professor is now being used as a Clinic at Ewoku (an edifice which had wrongly been attributed to Better
Ghana II ).
He engages in social and political activities and was Independent Parliamentary candidate in the 2004 Ghana elections. He worships with the St Anthony Catholic Church at Axim and is pioneer member of the Knights and Ladies of Marshall, Council Axim.
Let's the President decide.
jessegenesys.
Dr Ben K. D Asante.
Dr. Ben Asante has over 25 years of experience in the oil and gas industry. He was the technical Director of Ghana’s first Gas Infrastructure project and also developed the gas infrastructure master plan for Ghana in 2008. He has also served as a consultant to the Ghana National Petroleum Corporation (GNPC) and provided engineering services, project management and technical support for various projects across the world including UAE, Argentina, Brazil, Canada, China, Mexico, Russia, Thailand and USA. He has worked for major companies including Nova/TransCanada and Enron and Jacobs Engineering. Dr. Ben Asante is a product of Mfantsipim school and holds a BSc in Chemical Engineering (KNUST, Ghana), and an MSc in Chemical Engineering from the University of Calgary, Canada. He also has a PhD in Chemical Engineering from Imperial College, London /University of Calgary and has taught gas processing and pipeline engineering at Imperial College, UK and KNUST, Ghana. – By: Obrempong Yaw Ampofo/ the man deserves it, let's put tribal cards aside.
Prof. Kaku Sagary Nokoe
Position: Professor , Acting Dean, School of Graduate Studies and Acting Head, Dept. of Mathematics and Statistics
Department: Mathematics and Statistics
Email: kaku.nokoe@uenr.edu.gh
Qualifications: PhD Biometrics, M. F. Biometrics/Mensuration, B.Sc. Forestry, Cert Higher Education Management
Professor Kaku Sagary Nokoe (alias Paa Kaku Mefful) hails from Nsein and Axim in the Evalue-Ajomoro-Gwira constituency of Western Ghana, and is married with children. He had his basic secondary education in Ghana – at Axim/Apam Secondary and Nkwatia-Kwahu St Peter’s Secondary (Sixth Form) Schools.
Professor Nokoe is a Fellow of the Ghana Academy of Arts and Sciences (GAAS). He obtained his PhD from the University of British Columbia at age 27, having completed his Masters and Doctoral degrees in 3 years. He has over 35 years of post-doctoral teaching and research experience in biomathematics and academic administration/management. He won several academic awards and scholarships at the University including
INTERAF/AAU Scholar (University of Ibadan), l969-l972; Commonwealth Prize for Best Graduating Student , University of Ibadan, l972; Macmillan-Bloedel Fellow in Mensuration , 1973 and as University of British Columbia Scholar (1974-76).
He has lectured and served as external examiner in several universities in Africa and Belgium. He was Head of Department of Mathematical Sciences at the University of Agriculture in Nigeria (2002-2004), and the acting Vice-Chancellor of the University for Development Studies in Ghana (April 2007 to May 2010). He was also Vice-Chancellor of a private University (Wisconsin International University College) from 2010-2013. Retired, but not tired, he currently works (since June 2013) with the University of Energy and Natural Resources (UENR, Sunyani) as Professor of Mathematics and Dean of the School of Graduate Studies.
He served as biometrician in national and international research centres, published extensively in several peer-reviewed journals and has contributions in Wiley’s
Encyclopedia of Environmetrics and Springer’s International Encyclopedia of Statistical Science . He has supervised several graduate students in Statistics, Statistical Ecology and Surveys, Quantitative Entomology, Mensuration, Biometrics and Statistical Computing among others. Professor Nokoe was involved in the design, implementation and analysis of large scale surveys and multi-location trials in Africa. He was leader of the Cross Research Support Team of econometricians, M&E specialists and statisticians of the FARA-SSA Challenge Program engaged in high level econometric and impact analyses of the IAR4D (integrated agriculture research for development) and proof of the Agricultural Innovation Platform concept.
He is an Elected Member of the International Statistical Institute, Member of the International Association of Statistical Computing, Member of the International Biometric Society (IBS) and Founder of Sub-Saharan Africa Network (SUSAN) of IBS. He is the first recipient of the Rob Kempton Award of the International Biometric Society for “outstanding contribution to the development of biometry in developing countries” on 22nd July 2006 in Canada. Late in November 2006, he was again honoured with the Distinguished Foresters Award of the Professional Forestry Association of Nigeria for “effective application of mathematics in forestry and for uplifting the image of the profession through his research activities”. Professor’s inaugural lecture (GAAS) was on the “Marriage of Biology and Mathematics”.
Prof Nokoe consults regularly for International, regional and national organisations on Scientific Data Management and has offered courses in African-Caribbean-Pacific countries, during which period and activities had the opportunity of visiting several countries in the ACP regions and all continents.
Professor Nokoe has a strong interest in education at all levels. He used personal funds to establish Manye Academy in 2006, an institution with the SHS section now absorbed by the Ghana Government, and has assisted several with scholarships and admission to various tertiary institutions. As principal officer of the University for Development Studies and senior Member of the University of Energy and Natural Resources, Professor Nokoe facilitated the admission of over 400 from Nzema Maanle and continues to assist till date. His desire is to see educated westerners compete for various job positions in the emerging oil industries and also earn living for themselves. These educational efforts led the Nzema Maanle Council to honour with the Grand Order of Ankobra , and remains the only recipient to date with this highest award of Nzema Maanle.
On 21 December 2014, DEQ Change Foundation honoured him with the Nzema Personality of the Year 2012/2013 award at a high profile ceremony at the Essiama Senior Technical School in the Ellembele district. The citation read in part “for your quest for the progress of Nzema education and the general well-being of the people has been a hallmark. The Nzema Youth find a repository of inspiration from your personal excellence and prominence —- we will never get your kind!”
Professor Nokoe has assisted women organisations in the Ellembele district, in Ewoku and Kegyina in the Nzema East Municipality and built a six-unit-teachers quarters to reduce absenteeism and eliminate lateness for the community in Agona near Eguafo in Nzema East. One of the facilities put up by the Professor is now being used as a Clinic at Ewoku (an edifice which had wrongly been attributed to Better
Ghana II ).
He engages in social and political activities and was Independent Parliamentary candidate in the 2004 Ghana elections. He worships with the St Anthony Catholic Church at Axim and is pioneer member of the Knights and Ladies of Marshall, Council Axim.
Let's the President decide.
jessegenesys.
Tuesday, 25 October 2016
BUILDING TRUST IN A RELATIONSHIP
Trust is a super important part of a
healthy relationship , but it’s something
that many people struggle with, for a lot of
different reasons.
What does trust mean?
Trusting someone
means that you think they are reliable, you
have confidence in them and you feel safe
with them physically and emotionally. Trust
is something that two people in a
relationship can build together when they
decide to trust each other. You can’t
demand or prove trust; trusting someone is
a choice that you make.
*How Do I Build Mutual Trust
in a Relationship?
Building trust within a healthy relationship
happens gradually. How do you know if you
should trust someone? This can be a hard
question to answer, especially at the
beginning of a relationship, but your own
instincts about another person and the way
they behave over time are two important
things to consider when making that
decision.
Of course, in a healthy relationship it’s
important for both partners to trust and
be trusted, to open up and be vulnerable
with each other. Trust can’t be built if only
one partner is willing to do this and the
other isn’t. Building trust requires mutual
commitment . So, as your relationship
progresses, ask yourself:
*Is My Partner There for Me (and Am I
There for Them)?
We’re not just talking about being there
physically, but emotionally, too. Does your
partner listen to you and support you? Are
they sensitive to your problems, worries and
fears? Do they show compassion and
genuinely care about you? A person who is
trustworthy is able to demonstrate
consideration and care of others. This also
means that they trust you to know what’s
best for yourself. A partner who tells you
they know best, or that you don’t know how
you really feel, isn’t showing that they
trust you.
It’s also important to keep in mind that in
a healthy relationship, you can trust that
no matter what comes up your partner
won’t react in a way that threatens your
safety or harms you. Everyone deserves to
be in a relationship with someone who
can resolve conflicts in a healthy,
respectful way .
*Is My Partner Consistent (and Am I
Consistent with Them)?
Each person in a relationship demonstrates
their trustworthiness through consistency in
their actions. The first behaviors you look
at might be relatively small, like showing up
for dates at agreed-upon times. Keeping
private information just between the two of
you and always respecting boundaries are
other clues someone is dependable. Again,
learning these things in a relationship
happens gradually, as you both show that
you are consistent with your actions not
just occasionally, but all the time.
*Does My Partner Say What They Mean
and Do What They Say (and Do I Do
the Same)?
Another way a person shows they are
trustworthy is when their words and
behavior match up. You’ve probably heard
the phrase, “That person is all talk.” It
generally means that someone’s words and
actions don’t really correspond; they say
one thing and do another. For example, if
someone says they love you, and then they
act abusively toward you, their words and
actions don’t match. When you love
someone, you do not abuse them.
Many people who contact loveisrespect are
in relationships where one partner is
constantly checking in , asking where the
other partner is at all times, and/or trying
to control who their partner spends time
with. These behaviors aren’t healthy or
signs of trust; again, trust is a choice you
make. You can trust someone whether
they’re right next to you or a long distance
away. When there is trust, a person doesn’t
feel a need to monitor or control their
partner. They don’t need their partner to
“prove” their love and faithfulness. It’s a
lack of trust that makes those behaviors
feel necessary. If you trust someone, you
trust them regardless of who they spend
time with or where they go. You trust that,
even if someone else wanted to hurt your
relationship, your partner wouldn’t let that
happen.
*My Trust Was Broken in the
Past. How Can I Trust
Again?
If you’ve been burned in the past , it’s
understandable that you might have a
hard time trusting other people. It can help
to remind yourself that your new partner is
NOT your old partner (or your friend,
family member, or whoever broke your trust
before), and making assumptions about
them based on the actions of a completely
different person isn’t really fair. Even if
you’ve been hurt before, that’s not an
excuse for checking up on your new partner
or demanding that they prove their
trustworthiness to you. As we’ve said, trust
is a choice, and building on that trust
within a relationship takes time. When we
begin a relationship with someone, we’re
making the choice to trust them. If you
feel that you aren’t able to trust anyone
else right now, you might not be ready to
be in a relationship.
It’s worth noting that being able to trust
yourself is an important component in
trusting others. Being hurt by someone in
the past may have affected your ability to
trust yourself and your own instincts. Just
remember that the person who broke your
trust in the past made that choice; you
can’t take responsibility for someone else’s
actions or decisions.
healthy relationship , but it’s something
that many people struggle with, for a lot of
different reasons.
What does trust mean?
Trusting someone
means that you think they are reliable, you
have confidence in them and you feel safe
with them physically and emotionally. Trust
is something that two people in a
relationship can build together when they
decide to trust each other. You can’t
demand or prove trust; trusting someone is
a choice that you make.
*How Do I Build Mutual Trust
in a Relationship?
Building trust within a healthy relationship
happens gradually. How do you know if you
should trust someone? This can be a hard
question to answer, especially at the
beginning of a relationship, but your own
instincts about another person and the way
they behave over time are two important
things to consider when making that
decision.
Of course, in a healthy relationship it’s
important for both partners to trust and
be trusted, to open up and be vulnerable
with each other. Trust can’t be built if only
one partner is willing to do this and the
other isn’t. Building trust requires mutual
commitment . So, as your relationship
progresses, ask yourself:
*Is My Partner There for Me (and Am I
There for Them)?
We’re not just talking about being there
physically, but emotionally, too. Does your
partner listen to you and support you? Are
they sensitive to your problems, worries and
fears? Do they show compassion and
genuinely care about you? A person who is
trustworthy is able to demonstrate
consideration and care of others. This also
means that they trust you to know what’s
best for yourself. A partner who tells you
they know best, or that you don’t know how
you really feel, isn’t showing that they
trust you.
It’s also important to keep in mind that in
a healthy relationship, you can trust that
no matter what comes up your partner
won’t react in a way that threatens your
safety or harms you. Everyone deserves to
be in a relationship with someone who
can resolve conflicts in a healthy,
respectful way .
*Is My Partner Consistent (and Am I
Consistent with Them)?
Each person in a relationship demonstrates
their trustworthiness through consistency in
their actions. The first behaviors you look
at might be relatively small, like showing up
for dates at agreed-upon times. Keeping
private information just between the two of
you and always respecting boundaries are
other clues someone is dependable. Again,
learning these things in a relationship
happens gradually, as you both show that
you are consistent with your actions not
just occasionally, but all the time.
*Does My Partner Say What They Mean
and Do What They Say (and Do I Do
the Same)?
Another way a person shows they are
trustworthy is when their words and
behavior match up. You’ve probably heard
the phrase, “That person is all talk.” It
generally means that someone’s words and
actions don’t really correspond; they say
one thing and do another. For example, if
someone says they love you, and then they
act abusively toward you, their words and
actions don’t match. When you love
someone, you do not abuse them.
Many people who contact loveisrespect are
in relationships where one partner is
constantly checking in , asking where the
other partner is at all times, and/or trying
to control who their partner spends time
with. These behaviors aren’t healthy or
signs of trust; again, trust is a choice you
make. You can trust someone whether
they’re right next to you or a long distance
away. When there is trust, a person doesn’t
feel a need to monitor or control their
partner. They don’t need their partner to
“prove” their love and faithfulness. It’s a
lack of trust that makes those behaviors
feel necessary. If you trust someone, you
trust them regardless of who they spend
time with or where they go. You trust that,
even if someone else wanted to hurt your
relationship, your partner wouldn’t let that
happen.
*My Trust Was Broken in the
Past. How Can I Trust
Again?
If you’ve been burned in the past , it’s
understandable that you might have a
hard time trusting other people. It can help
to remind yourself that your new partner is
NOT your old partner (or your friend,
family member, or whoever broke your trust
before), and making assumptions about
them based on the actions of a completely
different person isn’t really fair. Even if
you’ve been hurt before, that’s not an
excuse for checking up on your new partner
or demanding that they prove their
trustworthiness to you. As we’ve said, trust
is a choice, and building on that trust
within a relationship takes time. When we
begin a relationship with someone, we’re
making the choice to trust them. If you
feel that you aren’t able to trust anyone
else right now, you might not be ready to
be in a relationship.
It’s worth noting that being able to trust
yourself is an important component in
trusting others. Being hurt by someone in
the past may have affected your ability to
trust yourself and your own instincts. Just
remember that the person who broke your
trust in the past made that choice; you
can’t take responsibility for someone else’s
actions or decisions.
Friday, 21 October 2016
WHO IS A REAL MAN?
Some women feel a “Real Man” doesn’t exist—that he is impossible to find. Other women do not want someone like him. On the other hand, some men think they are the very definition of a “Real Man.” Other men feel there is no such thing. One thing is true, though: Those men who think they are the very definition of a “Real Man” and those who think they are not are both very often wrong.
If you want to know if you are a real man or are in a relationship with a real man, watch the actions. A real man behaves so different from the selfish frat boy types you see everywhere that you can’t fail to notice the difference. He is a gentleman—good for more than just the first few months. Importantly, a real man does things so well when he is in a relationship that you just have to love him and his style.
1. A real man loves and respects his woman for who she is.
He might not love her all the time, but he loves her. Not just her body, her possessions and her status, but all of her ! He’s aware that as beautiful as her body is now, physical beauty fades. He therefore focuses his love and attention on her true beauty, which is found within her sensibilities and personality. He treats her like a lady, with dignity and respect. He doesn’t mind cooking her favorite meal, taking her out to wine and dine and paying the bills. He also expects love and respect from her.
2. A real man commits to the relationship fully.
He doesn’t cheat. He is loyal to his partner and knows that relationships take hard work to keep strong and healthy. His affection to his woman is a full-time commitment. He nourishes and strengthens the relationship through ongoing, honest communication and team work. When you are with a real man, you know you can trust him. He will stay faithful no matter what and expects you to do the same.
3. A real man protects his partner physically and emotionally.
Not that a woman can’t protect and defend herself, but he is there for her anyway. He protects her in different ways, including providing financial security and comforting her and making her feel everything will be okay. He is ready to throw a good punch if necessary to defend her from physical aggressors. However, he thinks before he acts. He never makes a move until he is sure all details and specifics are in order. His moves are calculated, deliberate and assured. Abuse of any kind is never an issue when you are with him. He is considerate and treats everyone kindly.
4. A real man fulfills his partner mentally and sexually.
He knows the majority of time in any relationship is spent doing nonphysical, nonsexual things. Besides whispering to her how beautiful she is or how he is going to make hot, passionate love to her when he gets back home in the evening, he also engages her in meaningful discussions about life, plans with her for the future, and cracks jokes to lighten and liven moments together. He displays an awareness, intelligence and sensitivity that makes his actions not only timely, but also genuinely charming.
5. A real man takes the first initiative—he leads.
That’s because he wears the pants in the relationship. Of course, the pants are picked out by his woman, but he is still the leader. He steps forward and addresses issues in the relationship boldly. He does not wait for the woman to solve problems. If he is not sure how to address an issue, he seeks help or advice. Some men play it safe and avoid taking the lead because they don’t want to be criticized, but not a real man. A real man says, “I’ll handle it,” and takes the initiative to solve the issue in his way.
6. A real man steps up and makes the tough decisions.
He knows real men are decisive and he makes decisions in the relationship. He does not leave every other decision to his partner. When making decisions, he seeks to understand her views (and that of other concerned parties) and is flexible enough to factor in those other views in his decisions. He does not seek to control people, but rather to improve their situation. If you are reluctant to make decisions, you are likely self-conscious and afraid of making mistakes. Women dislike indecisive, cowardly men.
7. A real man takes responsibility for his actions and decisions.
He does not shift blame (especially to his partner) or try to defend his mistakes. He simply acknowledges when he has made a mistake, apologizes for it, learns from it and works to make it right. Saying, “I am sorry,” is not a big deal to him. He knows it doesn’t make him any less of a man to say it. In fact, saying he’s sorry makes him more of a man because it demonstrates he has the confidence, courage and integrity to admit his faults and seek to correct them.
8. A real man speaks his mind—always.
He is not afraid or timid to say what’s on his mind. He will say no without fear whenever he doesn’t agree with something. He will debate you on topics he is not comfortable with without losing his cool. He will be straightforward and talk to you as an equal, then allow you to make your own conclusions or take whatever action you wish. This does not mean he is indifferent or treats women badly. He just doesn’t agree with her on everything. He knows a “Yes-man” is no man at all.
9. A real man stands up for the relationship.
Sometimes friends, family and even total strangers ask inappropriate questions or make inappropriate remarks about your relationship, such as saying you are not a “good couple.” In such cases, a real man stands up for himself and defends the legitimacy and integrity of his relationship. Even when he is among his peers, he speaks up and stands his ground in defense of his relationship. This proves he can express himself in the presence others, protect his woman and act like a grown man.
10. A real man pursues other passion(s) that don’t involve his partner.
He has enough going on in his life to keep him busy. That means he is, at least, passionate about one other thing besides his relationship. The relationship does not define him. He will give you your space and you must give him his. He is a confident, ambitious go-getter. He’s a real man!
#jessegenesys (Francis Kwofie).
If you want to know if you are a real man or are in a relationship with a real man, watch the actions. A real man behaves so different from the selfish frat boy types you see everywhere that you can’t fail to notice the difference. He is a gentleman—good for more than just the first few months. Importantly, a real man does things so well when he is in a relationship that you just have to love him and his style.
1. A real man loves and respects his woman for who she is.
He might not love her all the time, but he loves her. Not just her body, her possessions and her status, but all of her ! He’s aware that as beautiful as her body is now, physical beauty fades. He therefore focuses his love and attention on her true beauty, which is found within her sensibilities and personality. He treats her like a lady, with dignity and respect. He doesn’t mind cooking her favorite meal, taking her out to wine and dine and paying the bills. He also expects love and respect from her.
2. A real man commits to the relationship fully.
He doesn’t cheat. He is loyal to his partner and knows that relationships take hard work to keep strong and healthy. His affection to his woman is a full-time commitment. He nourishes and strengthens the relationship through ongoing, honest communication and team work. When you are with a real man, you know you can trust him. He will stay faithful no matter what and expects you to do the same.
3. A real man protects his partner physically and emotionally.
Not that a woman can’t protect and defend herself, but he is there for her anyway. He protects her in different ways, including providing financial security and comforting her and making her feel everything will be okay. He is ready to throw a good punch if necessary to defend her from physical aggressors. However, he thinks before he acts. He never makes a move until he is sure all details and specifics are in order. His moves are calculated, deliberate and assured. Abuse of any kind is never an issue when you are with him. He is considerate and treats everyone kindly.
4. A real man fulfills his partner mentally and sexually.
He knows the majority of time in any relationship is spent doing nonphysical, nonsexual things. Besides whispering to her how beautiful she is or how he is going to make hot, passionate love to her when he gets back home in the evening, he also engages her in meaningful discussions about life, plans with her for the future, and cracks jokes to lighten and liven moments together. He displays an awareness, intelligence and sensitivity that makes his actions not only timely, but also genuinely charming.
5. A real man takes the first initiative—he leads.
That’s because he wears the pants in the relationship. Of course, the pants are picked out by his woman, but he is still the leader. He steps forward and addresses issues in the relationship boldly. He does not wait for the woman to solve problems. If he is not sure how to address an issue, he seeks help or advice. Some men play it safe and avoid taking the lead because they don’t want to be criticized, but not a real man. A real man says, “I’ll handle it,” and takes the initiative to solve the issue in his way.
6. A real man steps up and makes the tough decisions.
He knows real men are decisive and he makes decisions in the relationship. He does not leave every other decision to his partner. When making decisions, he seeks to understand her views (and that of other concerned parties) and is flexible enough to factor in those other views in his decisions. He does not seek to control people, but rather to improve their situation. If you are reluctant to make decisions, you are likely self-conscious and afraid of making mistakes. Women dislike indecisive, cowardly men.
7. A real man takes responsibility for his actions and decisions.
He does not shift blame (especially to his partner) or try to defend his mistakes. He simply acknowledges when he has made a mistake, apologizes for it, learns from it and works to make it right. Saying, “I am sorry,” is not a big deal to him. He knows it doesn’t make him any less of a man to say it. In fact, saying he’s sorry makes him more of a man because it demonstrates he has the confidence, courage and integrity to admit his faults and seek to correct them.
8. A real man speaks his mind—always.
He is not afraid or timid to say what’s on his mind. He will say no without fear whenever he doesn’t agree with something. He will debate you on topics he is not comfortable with without losing his cool. He will be straightforward and talk to you as an equal, then allow you to make your own conclusions or take whatever action you wish. This does not mean he is indifferent or treats women badly. He just doesn’t agree with her on everything. He knows a “Yes-man” is no man at all.
9. A real man stands up for the relationship.
Sometimes friends, family and even total strangers ask inappropriate questions or make inappropriate remarks about your relationship, such as saying you are not a “good couple.” In such cases, a real man stands up for himself and defends the legitimacy and integrity of his relationship. Even when he is among his peers, he speaks up and stands his ground in defense of his relationship. This proves he can express himself in the presence others, protect his woman and act like a grown man.
10. A real man pursues other passion(s) that don’t involve his partner.
He has enough going on in his life to keep him busy. That means he is, at least, passionate about one other thing besides his relationship. The relationship does not define him. He will give you your space and you must give him his. He is a confident, ambitious go-getter. He’s a real man!
#jessegenesys (Francis Kwofie).
Wednesday, 12 October 2016
WHY DOUBLE DATING.
Sometimes I wonder why people double date in relationships. I mean do people even know the true meaning of what it takes to be
devoted to someone in a relationship ?
I think the term “relationship” is over used and over rated; this is why we hear all sorts of stories today about the things that go on in relationships today.
Trust has flown out the window and this is the reason why people feel they can act the way they like when they are in relationships.
I know so many people have gotten their hearts broken in relationships and I believe if you have ever fallen victim of this, you may be wondering why people double date, right?
Well, if you are as curious as I used to be, then I know you will enjoy reading the likely reasons people double date in relationships in this article.
Some of those likely reasons are:
*They are scared of being jilted:
While some one is in one relationship, he or she may be afraid of what is to come. He or she may not know what to expect at anytime so due to this fear, they decide to spread their wings by having someone else on the side.
They do this so that if they are disappointed by one, they can always have someone else to fall back on.
Relationships spring up daily and also break up daily so I believe this fear makes people double date in relationships.
*They don’t want to be alone:
I have a friend who dreads being alone. Since I’ve known her, she has never been without a boyfriend. If she’s in one relationship and it folds up, she always has a replacement.
When I asked her why this was so, she told me she hates being alone and that having someone in her life always made her feel complete. The thought of being alone always made her feel less complete.
I believe just like this lady, there are so many people out there who equally feel this way and for this reason, such people end up double dating.
*They are not satisfied:
Some people double date in relationships because they don’t get complete satisfaction from one person. Dissatisfaction could come in various forms; it could be in the area of finance, intimacy, compatibility etc.
Whatever the case, dissatisfaction in any relationship can make one have the desire to double date.
*They lack self confidence:
When some people lack faith in their partners and in them, they tend to want to double date just to be on the safe side.
They try to play it safe by having a second option in case anything goes wrong.
Most of the time, this happens if they are not well treated by their partner of if they feel insecure in that relationship.
They want more out of a relationship:
I think people double date in relationships when they don’t feel fulfilled in certain areas of their lives.
At this point, when they double date its almost getting to the end of one relationship and probably the reason that person hasn’t left his or her present relationship is because he or she hasn’t found someone reliable to date.
But not feeling fulfilled in a relationship is enough reason to want to double date.
If your partner isn’t adding value or making impact to your life, there’s every tendency, you’ll be tempted to double date.
*They see others doing it:
Some people cannot make decisions by themselves but rely on the actions of others to do so.
*One reason people double date in relationships is because their friends are doing the very same thing and to be like them, they follow suit.
Like the aforementioned, people double date for many reasons.
What other reasons do you think makes people double date in relationships?
Francis Jesse Kwofie (#jessegenesys)
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devoted to someone in a relationship ?
I think the term “relationship” is over used and over rated; this is why we hear all sorts of stories today about the things that go on in relationships today.
Trust has flown out the window and this is the reason why people feel they can act the way they like when they are in relationships.
I know so many people have gotten their hearts broken in relationships and I believe if you have ever fallen victim of this, you may be wondering why people double date, right?
Well, if you are as curious as I used to be, then I know you will enjoy reading the likely reasons people double date in relationships in this article.
Some of those likely reasons are:
*They are scared of being jilted:
While some one is in one relationship, he or she may be afraid of what is to come. He or she may not know what to expect at anytime so due to this fear, they decide to spread their wings by having someone else on the side.
They do this so that if they are disappointed by one, they can always have someone else to fall back on.
Relationships spring up daily and also break up daily so I believe this fear makes people double date in relationships.
*They don’t want to be alone:
I have a friend who dreads being alone. Since I’ve known her, she has never been without a boyfriend. If she’s in one relationship and it folds up, she always has a replacement.
When I asked her why this was so, she told me she hates being alone and that having someone in her life always made her feel complete. The thought of being alone always made her feel less complete.
I believe just like this lady, there are so many people out there who equally feel this way and for this reason, such people end up double dating.
*They are not satisfied:
Some people double date in relationships because they don’t get complete satisfaction from one person. Dissatisfaction could come in various forms; it could be in the area of finance, intimacy, compatibility etc.
Whatever the case, dissatisfaction in any relationship can make one have the desire to double date.
*They lack self confidence:
When some people lack faith in their partners and in them, they tend to want to double date just to be on the safe side.
They try to play it safe by having a second option in case anything goes wrong.
Most of the time, this happens if they are not well treated by their partner of if they feel insecure in that relationship.
They want more out of a relationship:
I think people double date in relationships when they don’t feel fulfilled in certain areas of their lives.
At this point, when they double date its almost getting to the end of one relationship and probably the reason that person hasn’t left his or her present relationship is because he or she hasn’t found someone reliable to date.
But not feeling fulfilled in a relationship is enough reason to want to double date.
If your partner isn’t adding value or making impact to your life, there’s every tendency, you’ll be tempted to double date.
*They see others doing it:
Some people cannot make decisions by themselves but rely on the actions of others to do so.
*One reason people double date in relationships is because their friends are doing the very same thing and to be like them, they follow suit.
Like the aforementioned, people double date for many reasons.
What other reasons do you think makes people double date in relationships?
Francis Jesse Kwofie (#jessegenesys)
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Friday, 7 October 2016
10 types of ladies men should never consider marrying
By Alexandrina Serwaa

1. The Chatterbox
This is the woman who never shuts up, barely stopping to breathe. Seemingly only concerned about what is going on in her life, she always has to make a comment about everything and dominates conversations.
2. The Desperate Chick
This type of woman will seem fantastic at first, until she starts talking about your wedding location, how many kids she wants and the name of your future dog–right after the first date! When a woman advances WAY faster than normal,watch out. She NEEDS a man so bad that she’s willing to put anybody in that slot, even the homeless
guy on the corner.
3. The Overly-Critical Woman
Anything you do for this type of woman is simply not good enough. Nothing seems to work unless it is done according to her standards. Anything that is said by anyone will be quickly taken out of context to become some sort of insult or some reason to wage war against the world. This type of woman has plenty of emotional baggage and will make you an angry and bitter person as there will be nothing but misery with her.
4. The Bimbo
This type of woman can’t obtain a GED but has managed to secure a PhD in the science of the bedroom. This is an intellectually challenged woman who looks great but, in all honesty, shouldn’t open her mouth. Her skills are unquestionably only rooted in the physical realm and unless you’re just after one-night stands, you do not want to bring a stupid girl home to meet Mom and Dad. The majority of girls you see on the streets everyday fall into this category.
5. The High Maintenance Chick
If this type of woman breaks a nail, she expects you to drop everything you’re doing to drive her to the salon immediately. Her daddy always told her she was a princess and she expects to be treated like one at all times. She has expensive taste and expects you to shower her with only the best things and take her out to posh places on a regular basis. If you don’t have a lot of money and a penchant for luxury, don’t even bother.
6. The Clingy Girl
This woman is a nuisance who can’t go anywhere or do anything without the company of her man. She’ll adopt your interests, calls 20 times a day and fly off the handle anytime she’s not around to monitor your behavior. This type of woman will smother any chance of you missing her by insisting that you spend every waking moment with her, refusing to let you go out with the boys or spend any significant amount of time with anyone else.
7. The Baby’s Mama
This woman has a great physique, great personality and her toes are pretty too! There’s only one problem–she’s got a pretty large amount of children with assorted “baby-daddy’s”, and when women like this get desperate, any and every guy has the potential to be “daddy.” This woman got knocked up by somebody that she was supposedly in love with, and not only is she a bad judge of character, she’s GROSSLY irresponsible. The same guys that are “jerks” now are the same guys she once thought the world of and had unprotected sex with.
8. The Gold Digger
The Gold-Digger will compliment you on your expensive watch, ask you what kind of car you drive, what you do for a living, where you live and so on. Like the high maintenance woman, the Gold Digger is basically looking for a sugar daddy, she’ll size you up within the first five minutes and drop you just as quickly if your cash flow runs out and you can’t take her shopping anymore. These types of women will just suck your wallet dry and leave you emasculated. Fortunately,you can usually see this type coming from a mile away. She wants to write out the names of all her designer items and post it on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook.
9. The Club Girl
Club girls are nothing more than fantasy women who have been practically living in bars and clubs since they hit the legal drinking age. They have beautiful faces with full lips, big doe eyes, great legs, and all the curves you could ever ask for. The problem in dating these women is that they love to wear clothes that show off their great assets not just to you, but to every Tom, man-hood and Harry on the street. A woman like this may be carefree and wild; however, once you take a closer look, you’ll realize that her entire life is a party and most nights will end with her puking in your car. Or waking up hungover, in some guy’s bed in the morning.
10. The Feminist
This type of woman can never be pleased by a man and she believes that men are the cause of all the pains and suffering of society. It is her strong belief that women are much more intelligent than men and are capable of doing things “the right way”. You don’t want to waste any time with this type of woman because anything that you do willalways be negative to her.
Ladies, your take on this article?
By Alexandrina Serwaa

1. The Chatterbox
This is the woman who never shuts up, barely stopping to breathe. Seemingly only concerned about what is going on in her life, she always has to make a comment about everything and dominates conversations.
2. The Desperate Chick
This type of woman will seem fantastic at first, until she starts talking about your wedding location, how many kids she wants and the name of your future dog–right after the first date! When a woman advances WAY faster than normal,watch out. She NEEDS a man so bad that she’s willing to put anybody in that slot, even the homeless
guy on the corner.
3. The Overly-Critical Woman
Anything you do for this type of woman is simply not good enough. Nothing seems to work unless it is done according to her standards. Anything that is said by anyone will be quickly taken out of context to become some sort of insult or some reason to wage war against the world. This type of woman has plenty of emotional baggage and will make you an angry and bitter person as there will be nothing but misery with her.
4. The Bimbo
This type of woman can’t obtain a GED but has managed to secure a PhD in the science of the bedroom. This is an intellectually challenged woman who looks great but, in all honesty, shouldn’t open her mouth. Her skills are unquestionably only rooted in the physical realm and unless you’re just after one-night stands, you do not want to bring a stupid girl home to meet Mom and Dad. The majority of girls you see on the streets everyday fall into this category.
5. The High Maintenance Chick
If this type of woman breaks a nail, she expects you to drop everything you’re doing to drive her to the salon immediately. Her daddy always told her she was a princess and she expects to be treated like one at all times. She has expensive taste and expects you to shower her with only the best things and take her out to posh places on a regular basis. If you don’t have a lot of money and a penchant for luxury, don’t even bother.
6. The Clingy Girl
This woman is a nuisance who can’t go anywhere or do anything without the company of her man. She’ll adopt your interests, calls 20 times a day and fly off the handle anytime she’s not around to monitor your behavior. This type of woman will smother any chance of you missing her by insisting that you spend every waking moment with her, refusing to let you go out with the boys or spend any significant amount of time with anyone else.
7. The Baby’s Mama
This woman has a great physique, great personality and her toes are pretty too! There’s only one problem–she’s got a pretty large amount of children with assorted “baby-daddy’s”, and when women like this get desperate, any and every guy has the potential to be “daddy.” This woman got knocked up by somebody that she was supposedly in love with, and not only is she a bad judge of character, she’s GROSSLY irresponsible. The same guys that are “jerks” now are the same guys she once thought the world of and had unprotected sex with.
8. The Gold Digger
The Gold-Digger will compliment you on your expensive watch, ask you what kind of car you drive, what you do for a living, where you live and so on. Like the high maintenance woman, the Gold Digger is basically looking for a sugar daddy, she’ll size you up within the first five minutes and drop you just as quickly if your cash flow runs out and you can’t take her shopping anymore. These types of women will just suck your wallet dry and leave you emasculated. Fortunately,you can usually see this type coming from a mile away. She wants to write out the names of all her designer items and post it on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook.
9. The Club Girl
Club girls are nothing more than fantasy women who have been practically living in bars and clubs since they hit the legal drinking age. They have beautiful faces with full lips, big doe eyes, great legs, and all the curves you could ever ask for. The problem in dating these women is that they love to wear clothes that show off their great assets not just to you, but to every Tom, man-hood and Harry on the street. A woman like this may be carefree and wild; however, once you take a closer look, you’ll realize that her entire life is a party and most nights will end with her puking in your car. Or waking up hungover, in some guy’s bed in the morning.
10. The Feminist
This type of woman can never be pleased by a man and she believes that men are the cause of all the pains and suffering of society. It is her strong belief that women are much more intelligent than men and are capable of doing things “the right way”. You don’t want to waste any time with this type of woman because anything that you do willalways be negative to her.
Ladies, your take on this article?
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